My ex-girlfriend and I want to be friends after two months of not speaking.

I was in a relationship with her for about 7-8 months, and everything was great until the end when I started facing some life struggles. During that time, I began to overreact to minor issues between us due to my stress. Eventually, she suggested that we just be friends, which I wasn't okay with, so she decided to break up with me and left for someone else for two months. About four days ago, she reentered my life, telling me that the guy she left me for had cheated on her and asked if we could be friends. I agreed, hoping we could reignite our connection, and we plan to see each other this weekend. However, she mentioned that she only wants to be friends and doesn't intend to settle down, which I understand, but I still want to rebuild our relationship. I'm not looking to get back together right away, but I do want to spend time with her and have fun. It feels like she's dismissing our past, despite the fact that I was important to her and we shared significant moments together. I expressed my desire to win her heart back, but she's not receptive to that. If we're meeting up this weekend for drinks, it feels like we're heading toward something more, yet she’s not acknowledging that. I'm unsure how to proceed. Should I just be friends with her and let her see other people while I stay on the sidelines? Or would it be better for me to cut ties completely?

aubreyharper • 1mo ago

What are your main goals for the weekend meetup with her?

pluto863 • 1mo ago

It's a tough situation. If you genuinely want to rebuild the relationship, being friends first can help, but be cautious. You might risk getting hurt if she’s not open to rekindling romance. Clearly communicate your feelings and boundaries. If she’s not receptive, consider stepping back to prioritize your own emotional well-being.

sky137 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It's understandable to want to reconnect, especially after a meaningful relationship. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and her desire for friendship. Going into this weekend, be clear about your feelings, but also prepared for her stance. If you find it's too hard to just be friends, it might be healthier to take a step back. Your feelings are valid; prioritize your emotional well-being. Take care!

abigailautumn • 1mo ago

Focus on enjoying your time together as friends. Be honest about your feelings, then decide!

lightning541 • 1mo ago

What do you value more right now: the chance to rebuild a deeper connection with her, or preserving your own emotional well-being by maintaining distance?

elijahwilliam • 1mo ago

Take it slow! Enjoy being friends but protect your heart. Be clear about your feelings to avoid confusion.

connorsky • 1mo ago

Just be honest about your feelings. If she's not on the same page, consider stepping back.

icefangfast40 • 1mo ago

It sounds tough, and I totally get where you’re coming from. A friendship can be tricky, especially with unresolved feelings. If you think you can handle being just friends, give it a shot, but be honest about your feelings. If it feels too painful or like false hope, it might be best to take a step back. Prioritize your well-being!

oliviasavannah • 1mo ago

Are you willing to accept a friendship with her even if it means you might have to watch her date others?

phoenix335 • 1mo ago

What do you hope to achieve by spending time with her this weekend?

rebeldragon25 • 1mo ago

What are your primary goals for reconnecting with her — are you more focused on rebuilding a friendship or eventually rekindling the romantic relationship?

rebel104 • 1mo ago

Focus on being friends, but protect your heart. If feelings grow, communicate openly. Don’t rush!

dylanlandon • 1mo ago

Focus on enjoying her company as a friend. Keep your feelings in check for now. Stay open!