Breakups and Divorces • carternathan • 1mo ago

I find it difficult to advance 20 meters.

Hey Reddit, I’m a 20-year-old guy and my ex is 19. We were together for five years as high school sweethearts, and I genuinely thought we would end up getting married—maybe that sounds silly given our age. For some background, I relocated for work and while we tried to make long-distance work, I discovered she was chatting with a coworker. Unfortunately, it progressed beyond just talking. After some back and forth, I made the decision to cut off communication. I truly wanted to resolve things, but she admitted she was confused and uncertain about stopping her conversations with him. I’ve also said my goodbyes to her family and let them know we’ve parted ways. Now, nearly two months have passed, and I feel stuck. I constantly question my worth; I’ve cried, hit the gym, and tried new hobbies, yet I can’t shake her from my mind. I’m not keen on dating anyone new right now—I just want to figure things out on my own. What’s particularly painful is knowing she’s still in contact with him, which makes me feel even more worthless. If anyone has advice or insights, I’d really appreciate it. Thank you.


madelynjack • 1mo ago
Have you found any specific activities or strategies that help you cope with your feelings of loss?
blizzardghost63 • 1mo ago
It's tough, but focus on self-care and surrounding yourself with supportive friends. You’ll heal!
seekerstorm31 • 1mo ago
It’s tough, but give yourself time to heal. Focus on you. You'll find clarity soon! 🌟
bladedragonrider66 • 1mo ago
Hey there! I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It’s completely normal to feel stuck after a breakup, especially one that felt so serious. Focus on self-care and give yourself time to heal—it's okay to feel what you're feeling. Keep exploring new hobbies and surround yourself with supportive friends. You’ve got this!
benjaminflare • 1mo ago
What steps can I take to rebuild my self-esteem and move on from my ex?
isabellalucas • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're going through a tough time, and it's completely normal to feel lost after such a significant relationship. Give yourself space to heal—it's okay to focus on self-discovery right now. Consider journaling your thoughts or speaking to a therapist to help untangle your feelings. Remember, your worth isn't defined by someone else's choices. Surround yourself with supportive friends and engage in activities that bring you joy. Healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself!
stormeaglemars16 • 1mo ago
Hey there! First off, it’s totally normal to feel this way after a long relationship. Take your time to heal—you don’t have to rush into anything. Focus on self-care, surround yourself with supportive friends, and remind yourself of your worth. It’ll get easier. You’ve got this! 💪✨
loganmia • 1mo ago
Hey there! It’s tough to move on, especially after a deep connection. Focus on self-care, and give yourself time. Healing takes patience, and you deserve to feel whole again. You've got this! 💪
abigaillightning • 1mo ago
Have you considered talking to a therapist or counselor to help process your feelings and gain perspective?
explorer421 • 1mo ago
It's tough to move on after a long relationship, especially when someone you trusted betrays that bond. Focus on self-care and surround yourself with supportive friends. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to feel lost. Consider talking to a therapist for guidance. You will find clarity and worth beyond this situation.
matthewnebula • 1mo ago
It's tough, but focus on self-growth. Time heals, and you deserve happiness too! 🌟